Bad morning with my autistic son

Well the past couple of weeks i’ve been dealing with my son..first off i’ll let u know a little about him then maybe it will be a little easier to understand. My son is 19 soon to be 20 in dec , he is autistic and he can be very loud and violent when he don’t get his own way. He goes to a program for adults like him called Temco mon-fri his bus comes at 6:45am and he comes home at 2:15 . well the past month he has been telling me he is sick (other words he don’t wanna go to program) he tells me this so he can stay home and play video games! ya so last week i had finaly had enough he had not gone in two days and he starts fighting with me in the morning , and he gets very loud and my walls are thin i don’t want to wake up my neighbors ..so i took his wii,gamecube, and ds and put them away, he was not a happy camper, ohh well he needs to learn i’m the boss and NOT him, he tells me he is going to take my cell phone away! ya i see that happening haha
so we did pretty good the rest of last week and mon he got up no problem (usually it’s mon and fri he don’t want to go) so i thought he would be fine today but ummm boy was i wrong. I woke up this morning at 4 came down stairs and made some coffee and played on facebook for awhile then about 5:30 i heard him awake and he was all happy and so forth but he knows he don’t have to get dressed til 6am and he said mom not 6 is it , i said no son…so he played his game for a little bit …i knew he was up so i gave him some extra time i went up to tell him to get dressed at 6:15 and where was he ??? IN BED ! what really he started telling me he is sick….and he so knows if he don’t go mom takes the wii. well he was getting mad at me and growling and being very loud. He had several chances to get up and get ready for temco but he didn’t want to … ok so i cancelled his rteck(the bus that takes him, u have to cancel rides if they are not going) so i did that ..and all of a sudden i hear stomping on the ceiling (his room is above the kitchen) oh hell no not this early …so i go up again and he said i want my wii so i told him he knows the rule u go to temco u can have it when u get home. Then i find out the reason he was doing all of this is cause he didn’t like the pants i put out for him to ware urgh! i simply told him son u can’t read your mind, u have to tell me if you don’t want to ware something or don’t like it u have to open your mouth ..then he got dressed (different pants) so had to come down and call his aide to see if she can come and pick him up!(i don’t have a car i know it sucks) so she is coming at 7:15 . So ya like i said i’ve had a hell of a morning already and its only 7:00 am.

Sometimes i just wish there was someone else to talk to that goes though the same things with a autistic adult, alot of what i see online they all have little kids, well i’ve done all that …i need support for ppl with adult/kids ..its really hard doing it alone and not having anyone that understands AT ALL. I think this is why i’m depressed alot of the time. but today is just my venting day..so if u made it though this post THUMBS UP!!!**** for you haha 😀 just helps to vent by writing it all down. i’m feeling much better now .

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2 thoughts on “Bad morning with my autistic son

  1. Aww, I am so sorry you had a horrible day!

    Did you look for support groups {for families dealing with austisic family members}? If there are none in your community, maybe you can search for some online! I am almost positive that there are support message boards; I think they can help you out a lot 🙂

    My last “real” job, I worked with children that were taken away from their parents {either the parents were doing something wrong, or they just needed some help with their kid(s)}. For a while, I worked with a family of three kids. The youngest boy was actually autistic and he would have his bad days and good days, like your son. Sometimes it was difficult in getting him to do certain things… I remember it was SO hard to get him to eat breakfast because he wanted to play the Wii!

    It’s tough!

    But hopefully the flow of communication will help 🙂 Good luck!

    • thank you! yes I’ve looked im on a group in Facebook but most of the kids are little , and are dealing with other issues that i can help with cause i’ve been there. im still looking. most the time he is pretty good and a lovable kid…it’s just some days lol. it sure is hard and always good to talk to friends and other’s about it. thanks for your comment 🙂

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